Emotions are the most powerful, potent and an ever-present force in our lives. In fact, if you start paying attention, you will realize that most of the decisions that you make in your life are governed by emotions. We react because of our emotions. We take chances when we get excited about a new prospect.
We cry when we get overwhelmed with sorrows or even happiness. We shout out or even turn silent, all because of our emotions. As you can see, emotions govern our choices, decisions, responses, and intentions. It often makes us make decisions that we even regret in the future.
Now, this is the reason why you will need to control your emotions. Controlling emotions doesn’t mean that you have to control everything, positive and negative. If that was what was needed, then you would never feel love, happiness or joy in your life for achievement.
These are the finer feelings that you surely want to experience. However, won’t it be great if you could just control the negative emotions? That would have changed a lot of things in life which probably you regret now. But as they say, it is better late than never. You still can think of ways so that you can control your negative emotions and stop being under their control. How can you do that? It won’t be simple for sure. But worth a try.
Negative emotions like rage, envy, jealousy, hatred, bitterness, all of these take us spiraling down to an emotional pit which is extremely effective in terms of making us do what we don’t want to do. Also, when you are feeling such a negative emotion, your body starts to react according to it.
With the negative emotions, it is our nerve and brain that tell our body to be in trauma or in defense mode. As a result, from hormones secretion to blood flow, everything gets affected in our body.
Many have reported feeling sensations like pain or agony while they feel rage or anxiety. In fact, studies show that holding a grudge and not forgiving can even have physiological effects on us. So, when there is a rush of emotions and you are already feeling it within you, your immediate job should be to switch.
Now, how can you control the rise of negative emotions? Take a look at the following points to know more.
Don’t React Right Away
When you are reacting immediately to the emotional triggers, you are making the wrong choice. This is definitely governed by your emotions and the decision you are making is something that you will surely regret in the future. For example, in a heated moment, your loved one said something that you didn’t like.
By nature and impulse, you would immediately feel like saying something in reply that you know would hurt them for sure. And that can potentially damage your relationship with them. In a situation like this, what can you do? First, take a deep breath to stabilize yourself physically. Now, distance yourself emotionally so that the emotional trigger becomes ineffective.
Go to another room. Leave the space. Calm down. When the heartbeat is normal again and when you already feel that the urge of reacting is not there anymore, only then come back where you were.
Before you think it is a religious activity, let me tell you, it is not. Having faith essentially means that you have faith in power or guidance that you believe will lead you to joy, relief, and wisdom. When you are burdened with emotions, you tend to feel clueless about what you should do.
And which path you should follow. In a situation like this, ask for guidance and have faith. When you are feeling remorse or sorrow, it is obvious that your heart and spirit will be broken and you will feel like giving up. To you, nothing will make sense. You will probably feel that you are the loneliest person on earth.
But when you are asking for divine guidance, you just need to have faith and let go. You will know that not everything needs to make sense immediately. You can wait for answers. For now, you will be just contained by being guided to a calm space of mind.
Find a Healthy Outlet
When your emotions are overpowering you, you will find two options. Either you can channel it with your reaction or you will bottle it up so that it doesn’t cause any damage. However, there is another option that you might not feel about turning to immediately but it is the right one for you.
Find a healthy outlet for your emotions instead of choosing any of the former. When you react, you risk losing others. When you are bottling up your emotions, you are risking your sanity. A healthy outlet is a way that will help you let the emotion flow. If you have someone you trust with your feelings, then talk to them.
If you don’t feel comfortable with this, then you can still let it out by writing it down. Maintain a journal. In that, write what you are feeling. If you are feeling a violent rage, then get into some aggressive exercise like kick-boxing or martial arts. If you have time to practice, then practice meditation and chanting.
When you are looking for ways to control your emotions and essentially the impulse to react, have you thought of self-help?
Well, this doesn’t have to limit itself to reading motivational writings or positive writings. This means that you will be able to identify your trigger or your negative emotions quickly and thus, you will control your reactions too.
So, if you are wondering how you can do that, I will suggest that you need to rewire your subconscious mind. Generally, you react according to your impulse. And that creates a behavioral pattern for you. Every time a similar situation arises, you react in a similar way.
Now, it is time to reprogram your subconscious mind. You can meditate or use the Law of Attraction. Or you can listen to subliminal messages regularly that will feed your brain with positive information and you will start reacting differently and control your emotions.
Controlling emotions doesn’t always mean that you have to be in an extremely positive mindset. That is not possible. No one can be happy and joyous all the time. But you can consciously choose to control your emotions and become aware of your reactions and finally control them.
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